Sunday brawl

Sunday, Payden and Ava went outside to play. These two fight like you would not believe, which always amazes me due to their difference in age; Payden almost nine and Ava 4. It seems no one told them they shouldn't fight like that, especially Payden, who should be an example to her 4 year old sister.

Oh, wait, I say that daily, sometimes many times a day.

Anyway, they went outside to play and I kid you not, 5 minutes later they were both screaming at each other. I am not exaggerating; they were screaming at the top of their lungs.
When this happens in the house, it bothers and aggrevates me.
When it happens outside, I am mortified. We have a rule; if you fight outside, you come inside.

They were fighting over a stick.

So they came inside, and Payden wouldn't stop fighting and whining, so she was sent to her room, after being told she should be an example, its just a stick, blah blah blah. ( Sometimes I think the only thing she hears is the blah part.)

When she came upstairs, she brought a note with her, apologizing for fighting with Ava and for over reacting about a stick. She wrote that since she calmed down, she realized what she could have done instead, ask Ava to share the stick and be kind.

I loved the note, and I hope it is a sign that Payden might be getting what I am always trying to tell her. Maybe it means this phase of over reacting and not being able to control herself is winding down. Payden is such a sweet girl, sharing, compassionate, loving. If she could learn to think before she acts and calm down more, she would be so much happier.

At least she would spend less time in her room.